You know those people you encounter that just don’t seem phased by anything? I can easily admit, I am not one of those people. I am a very happy person and I like to pride myself on the fact that I can find joy in very small things such as fresh flowers or the way sunlight enters a room. However, as I have gotten older, busier and more stressed out I find myself stopping less to appreciate the small things and complaining about everything. I know I am not alone as a lot of my conversations with other people start with complaints (i.e. ughh I am so tired, I have no money, I have no time, etc. ) I think many people are programed this way and often feel odd admitting to other people that they are perfectly content and have nothing to complain about. It’s almost as if you’re listening to a friend go on and on about their woe’s you feel like you should probably do the same.
As I have noticed myself doing this more, I have made it a goal to be more positive. To emulate those people I admire so much, who can show up with a smile on their face and seem very present. Obviously that is not possible every single moment of the day, but I truly believe the more you actively think positive the more good things happen. When you open yourself up to negativity, whether it be body shaming or telling yourself you’ll never get out of a debt, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
So how do we invite more positivity in? One of the small steps I have taken that is seemingly working for me is to make a gratitude list. This one is major! At the end of each day (I do it right before I get into bed) write down a short list of things you are thankful for. These can be as big or as small as you want, but taking time to write things down and looking at the list you will realize more often than not there is so much more to be positive about than negative. The other thing I do is taking a minute to stop and think while I am in the midst of being negative. Instead of just trucking along and feeling like more and more is piling on my plate I like to to assess what it is that is bothering me before letting the moment pass.
There really is a lot to be thankful for and even in your most stressed out times tuning into that really helps shift focus of what is important in life. I hope you all have a wonderful and happy weekend!